"Oh boy, how much do you weigh?" His name was Dr. Pfeffer. My discharge papers from the emergency room told me to make an appointment with him. I had a large obstructive kidney stone that wasn't going anywhere on its own. I get them sometimes, usually they pass with little fanfare. This one (1.1cm) had … Continue reading A Plea
I used to work for this nonprofit organization. We were a big org that was focused on animal welfare. Like many organizations in this field, our office was blindingly white. There were probably less than 5 non-white people who roamed our labyrinthine hallways, and any given white staffer could easily rattle off their names. In … Continue reading Activism and Obedience
When I ditched diet culture and started practicing Intuitive Eating (IE) a few years ago, I would have guessed that my biggest challenge would come in the form of a dessert buffet or magnificent, bottomless bowl of pasta. Little did I know that "honoring my fullness" with a plate of cacio e pepe made of my hopes … Continue reading Eating Intuitively While Working Remotely
Did you know that you can declined to be weighed at the doctor's office?! YES, I KNOW. The internet has been telling me for years at this point. I hear it all the time: in shareable graphics, in posts from others either fretting about declining to be weighed or triumphantly describing declining to be weighed … Continue reading Unbearable Weight: Why I Don’t Decline Being Weighed at the Doctor’s Office
I've written a lot of words about a lot of topics on this blog, but the post I get the most mileage out of is always a surprise to me. It's my blog on my trip to Walt Disney World in Orlando. It consistently gets traffic and comments. And honestly, guys? It's probably the post I … Continue reading Traveling While Fat: Disney World vs. Universal Studios
A lot of people seem to be under the impression that fat people don't work, but we do. We're part of the workforce, we're part of the economy, and we are productive members of society. We can also face a crushing degree of fatphobia in the workplace.
"I know this is a sensitive topic," you say to me as I sit on your examination table. Don't go there, please don't go there, can we just get through one appointment without this conversation? We had this conversation last time and it was so awful it had me in frustrated tears for hours after my … Continue reading A Sensitive Topic
A few months ago, I finally started following someone on Instagram that the Health at Every Size (HAES) and Intuitive Eating (IE) crowds had been recommending to me for as long as I could remember. At the same time, I followed another account that came highly recommended by a few fat activists I admire. Very … Continue reading 5 Questions for Thin People with Health at Every Size and Intuitive Eating Brands
Fat people like food! Include us in your restaurant's business plan and make lots of money!
Since I published a post on the issue of flying on aeroplanes while fat in January, there has been a steady stream of essays flooding my inbox. It's slowed a little bit, thankfully, since that first day when my inbox had literally hundreds of comment notifications overnight. But at least once every few days, I … Continue reading A Note to the Fledgling Essayists in My Comments Section