Updated, May 2021: I wrote this piece in 2019 and it was long overdue for an update. I’ve removed the “White Fragility” framework because WOW that did not age well, and I should never have used it. I know better now, and I'm sorry. I updated the definition of “deathfat” and credited author and fat … Continue reading Fategories – Understanding the Fat Spectrum
One of my favorite ways to get to know someone is to find out what their weirdest, most out-of-the-blue, most inane trigger for Big Anger is. My husband's is chicken and waffles; he finds the combination of a sweet breakfast item with a savory non-breakfast item simply unbearable and there mere sight of chicken and … Continue reading The Minnesota Starvation Experiment, Ancel Keys & Why Science Won’t Save Us
I'm a big Star Wars fan. And one of my favorite arcs in the whole franchise is from "The Last Jedi." (Yeah, I like the new trilogy, die mad about it, haters.) Luke Skywalker, Jedi of myth and legend, is talking to Rey. Rey is a young girl from nowhere, daughter of no one, she … Continue reading Moving Rocks: On Burning Health at Every Size to the Ground
I used to work for this nonprofit organization. We were a big org that was focused on animal welfare. Like many organizations in this field, our office was blindingly white. There were probably less than 5 non-white people who roamed our labyrinthine hallways, and any given white staffer could easily rattle off their names. In … Continue reading Activism and Obedience
When I ditched diet culture and started practicing Intuitive Eating (IE) a few years ago, I would have guessed that my biggest challenge would come in the form of a dessert buffet or magnificent, bottomless bowl of pasta. Little did I know that "honoring my fullness" with a plate of cacio e pepe made of my hopes … Continue reading Eating Intuitively While Working Remotely
Did you know that you can declined to be weighed at the doctor's office?! YES, I KNOW. The internet has been telling me for years at this point. I hear it all the time: in shareable graphics, in posts from others either fretting about declining to be weighed or triumphantly describing declining to be weighed … Continue reading Unbearable Weight: Why I Don’t Decline Being Weighed at the Doctor’s Office
I've written a lot of words about a lot of topics on this blog, but the post I get the most mileage out of is always a surprise to me. It's my blog on my trip to Walt Disney World in Orlando. It consistently gets traffic and comments. And honestly, guys? It's probably the post I … Continue reading Traveling While Fat: Disney World vs. Universal Studios
I have a confession to make. It's shameful and I hesitate to put it out there on the internet where it will be saved in perpetuity, but it must be done. I fucking love TLC's "90 Day Fiancé." In general, I am not a fan of "guilty pleasures," because life is short and you should … Continue reading Hot, Heavy, and Stupid: TLC’s Bad New Show & Our Pathological Hatred of Fat People
A lot of people seem to be under the impression that fat people don't work, but we do. We're part of the workforce, we're part of the economy, and we are productive members of society. We can also face a crushing degree of fatphobia in the workplace.
A few months ago, I finally started following someone on Instagram that the Health at Every Size (HAES) and Intuitive Eating (IE) crowds had been recommending to me for as long as I could remember. At the same time, I followed another account that came highly recommended by a few fat activists I admire. Very … Continue reading 5 Questions for Thin People with Health at Every Size and Intuitive Eating Brands
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